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The ever lasting merry go round game

The ever lasting merry go round game

Now days, it seems that they have to rely heavily on the other people to make a decision, even a simple question like yes or no they have to rely on other things.

I admit I am guilty of it sometimes too, over the years I havs grown to find that it is an irritating and a time consuming bad habit.

There are many times you hear people saying something along the line like ‘ if A goes, then I go’. Following, A will reply ‘ if B goes den I will go’ and B will reply… it goes on in a chain and eventually no one make a stand on whether they are going or not, it is just like pushing the food that you do not like round and round on plate and it does not disappear, the problem is not solve and everyone do not know if they are going or not.

At the end of the day, the plans would be just like the uneaten food on the plate, it would go down the chute.

That would not be the most infuriating thing, the next thing you would know would be some people would start blaming others, and making comments like ‘ it is your fault la, you did not say you want to go, I actually also want to go one, I thought you do not want to go that why I never go. Why you never tell me you want to go?’

They shift the blame on other people.

We always say that we should be given the rights to make our own decision, so why not you make full use of the rights that you fight for. It is so ironic when people complain about their parents making decision for them and the yak on about not have enough freedom and the next moment you ask them to make a decision, they make they ask the other people to make a decision for them and it is not themselves who wants to make a decision.

I can understand why people say tings like ‘if A goes, then I would go’. I use to say that a lot in the past. It is something like giving myself a leeway, an escape route. If the event does not go well I can blame the other person. Also, I free myself of the responsibility to make an obligation to the person who asks. And if I do not want to go, I would not feel so bad, I am actually doing something ‘good’ I am not rejecting that person outright. But what I did not know is that I am doing the most irritating thing on earth. To me, it is anyway.

Over the years, I got fed of playing the ‘you go I go’ game.. everytime I go out, my friends and I have to do this over and over again, it is like a never ending cycle, eventually we waste a lot of time. Finally I go fed up of it, and when I happens I would suggest something. At first, most of my friends would just take the suggestion. but after that everyone will just give they own suggestion. It is fun like that.

I think it is high time for us, especially people of our age to start making decision for ourselves. We cannot play the ‘you go I go’ game forever. We also cannot be lead by others forever. I am sure that people would be appreciative if you just give a definite answer; no matter it is just a rejection or acceptance, after all people ask YOU for an answer.

So the next time people ask you to go somewhere, please try not to play the merry go round game with them,

posted by maevbe @ 12:00 AM